Having a perfectly picked up, organized ‘house’ is a myth. A ‘home’ is messy with the detritus of real people doing real things. I’m not suggesting that you don’t spend some time ‘picking up’ but don’t beat yourself up because your home looks ‘lived in’.
I definitely share your feeling that if I could just catch a minute and get on top of the clutter, things would happen. There was a time when I was on top of things, but that was like, 2007.
The podcast was my introduction to Anne. The podcast with Anne describing their departure from their previous building to a women’s group remains my all time favorite podcast. Unfortunately it’s not on the web site any longer or the archives. I miss the regular Monday podcast. Anne and Matt were in my ears for each Monday on walks and runs. The thing is as a pastor Mondays are really hard: a lot second guessing and rumination on what could have been better. Anne and Matt gave me things to think about, encouragement and even laughs at being “literally H—-r.” Thank you so much for your writing and all that you and Matt do.
I don't mind if you can't get around to podcasting ... SO LONG AS you're both still making it to Planet Fitness!
The "All Fours" thing is by now (as you say) pedestrian. Another word for this I recently learned is "quotidian." Everyone seems to be recommending these kinds of solutions to being a middle aged married woman. The only interesting/new part of it seems to be "creating a space" within monogamy ... so as to be able to fool around without losing all the benefits (especially financial, I suppose) of monogamy.
I've watched about half a dozen Netflix shows on this topic (married people - the wives usually - having affairs). I'm pretty positive that the creators of these shows are the kind of people that would never pass moral judgment on anyone for "following her heart." YET ... in every single case, things turn disastrously for her, her husband, and the love. In some shows, one or more of them dies. It's as if, in spite of being all modern and woke, the creators of the show took seriously their duty to present realistic outcomes, and they were hemmed in. Deep down, they know that they have to script it to end badly.
Cindy is 65, and I'm planning to turn 66 next month. We've been married for 38.5 years. Marriage just gets better and better, in spite of a world that seems to be hell bent on steering off into a ditch.
Having a perfectly picked up, organized ‘house’ is a myth. A ‘home’ is messy with the detritus of real people doing real things. I’m not suggesting that you don’t spend some time ‘picking up’ but don’t beat yourself up because your home looks ‘lived in’.
This!
I definitely share your feeling that if I could just catch a minute and get on top of the clutter, things would happen. There was a time when I was on top of things, but that was like, 2007.
You are not alone. Symptom of a busy mom of a busy home.
The podcast was my introduction to Anne. The podcast with Anne describing their departure from their previous building to a women’s group remains my all time favorite podcast. Unfortunately it’s not on the web site any longer or the archives. I miss the regular Monday podcast. Anne and Matt were in my ears for each Monday on walks and runs. The thing is as a pastor Mondays are really hard: a lot second guessing and rumination on what could have been better. Anne and Matt gave me things to think about, encouragement and even laughs at being “literally H—-r.” Thank you so much for your writing and all that you and Matt do.
I don't mind if you can't get around to podcasting ... SO LONG AS you're both still making it to Planet Fitness!
The "All Fours" thing is by now (as you say) pedestrian. Another word for this I recently learned is "quotidian." Everyone seems to be recommending these kinds of solutions to being a middle aged married woman. The only interesting/new part of it seems to be "creating a space" within monogamy ... so as to be able to fool around without losing all the benefits (especially financial, I suppose) of monogamy.
I've watched about half a dozen Netflix shows on this topic (married people - the wives usually - having affairs). I'm pretty positive that the creators of these shows are the kind of people that would never pass moral judgment on anyone for "following her heart." YET ... in every single case, things turn disastrously for her, her husband, and the love. In some shows, one or more of them dies. It's as if, in spite of being all modern and woke, the creators of the show took seriously their duty to present realistic outcomes, and they were hemmed in. Deep down, they know that they have to script it to end badly.
Cindy is 65, and I'm planning to turn 66 next month. We've been married for 38.5 years. Marriage just gets better and better, in spite of a world that seems to be hell bent on steering off into a ditch.